home

search Catpert

Search hundreds of articles

MY CATPERT

CAT BEHAVIOR SECRETS REVEALED!



Cat Trainer reveals powerful strategies that transformed antisocial “wild cats” into lovable housecats in less than 13 days.

cat ads

cat pictures

Ask a cat expert

Here you can post questions about cats and get answers directly from leading cat experts on the field! Before posting a new question check whether somebody has asked a similar question already by searching the archives on the right. We have various cat experts on board who are happy to help you - absolutely free. We just want to make sure that expert cat advice is available to any cat lover.

QUESTIONS TO THE CAT EXPERTS:

We are having a major problem introducing Lilly, 4 yrs., to our two existing cats. We have Sega, 13yrs. Female, and Toby, 7 Yrs. Male. Sega and Toby have been together since Toby was a kitten, with no other animals in the house. The two of them have a very good relationship, sleep together, play, eat at the same time, etc. There is an end of our couch that our cats used to sleep on at night that we set up for Lilly to sleep on since there was really no other place for her to be above the floor and safely away from the other cats. We wanted to introduce them gradually as we read online, but we do not have a room that she could have slept in to get them accustomed them over time. Ever since we introduced Lilly in, at first things were icy, but it has been a month and the two existing cats still do not want to be around her. Lilly will not go upstairs or really try to explore the house, she mainly stays in the living room on the couch, where her food is, in a box in the living room we put down for her to lay in, or in the computer room to use the litter box. I have taken Lilly upstairs to try to get the other cats used to napping with her, and she will stay on the bed with them. At night, she sleeps on my pillow. Toby has taken more of an interest, but has tried jumping on Lilly and at first she just cried at him, but now she has taken to hissing and swatting at him. Sega will hiss at Lilly, and in return she will cry. But Toby and Sega’s behavior has radically changed since Lilly came in. I have been trying to facilitate getting them together and it seems to have made things worse. Sega Sega would come to eat when the food was placed down, (run the feetsies) now she has to be put in front of it. She used to go to both her and Toby’s bowls and sample the food from both if Toby did not eat. If Lilly is there, she hisses and won’t eat until later when Lilly is not near the food. Sega would walk freely around the house, now she more lays under the table, and when walking by Lilly hisses and sulks very close to the ground. At night she would come upstairs when it was bedtime and sleep next to me. Now, she either comes up later, or I have to carry her up in order to come upstairs. Every evening Sega would come and sit next to me on the couch when I called for her. Now she either won’t come sit with me or I have to come get her. Sega would lay on my pillow when we slept occasionally, now Lilly does. Sega will not lay out on the living room floor like she used to. Sega last night attacked Lilly. Lilly went downstairs, and tried to come back up. Sega went after her, hissing with claws out and had her trapped behind the armoire. She went back and forth from side to side to see Lilly, and when my wife went down to break it up, Sega turned on my wife. Sega acts very distant and nothing like herself. Toby Toby will tend to lay more in the kitchen on the rug than be in the living room. Toby is very curious around Lilly and will tend to follow her around the house. When she is lying on the couch, he will walk by her, and sometimes just stare at her. He has started jumping up on the couch at her, nobody really hurts each other, just swatting. I am afraid it could escalate. Toby will tend to go into the computer room to see what Lilly is doing, and she feels cornered and cries out. Every night, Toby would come up to me in bed and nestle with me. He rarely does it if at all now. Toby would sit at night between my wife’s legs while watching television. Now, that is where Lilly lies, and he might be getting jealous. But there is no where else for Lilly to be where she feels safe and be close to one of us. We cut his nails this past week, as we do every couple of weeks, and normally while not that calm or happy with it, was just horrendous and very upset, almost as if we were hurting him. Toby used to come eat with Sega a couple of times a week when food was placed down if it was interesting smelling. Now, he tends to shy away when Lilly is there, or lately, if he doesn’t want the food placed, when trying to walk away will go by Lilly and she will hiss and swat at him. Toby and Sega would sleep on the bed together during the day. Now Sega will, but Toby has taken to sleeping in the corner on the laundry. I am wondering if we did make the right decision by bringing Lilly in. While I love them all, I have raised Sega for 13 years, and have a very special relationship with her and Toby. Toby’s mother abandoned him when he was 6 weeks old, and I took him and raised him since. When he nestles, it is very similar to how a kitten responds to a mother cat. I believe since he was so young he bonded to me as a kitten would. I want this to work out, but it is breaking my heart to see them both, especially Sega (queen of the house) not acting like themselves. While my wife is a good cat mother, she doesn’t share the bond with them that I do. I am also home all day and see them acting different more. I always wanted Sega to be able to live out her life happy, loved and stress-free as she got older. Her and Toby had a happy, symbiotic almost relationship. However, I have wondered how Toby would react the day something happened to Sega, and hoped that Lilly would make it easier on him by him not being alone. But Lilly has been passed around twice before, and abandoned by our neighbors. I also fear just perpetuating the cycle, and when it’s not convenient just passing her off to someone else. Lilly is a very loving cat, very gentle, and I have come to care about her very much. I don’t know what is best or the right thing to do for all the cats. Aug 28

« first page « prev Showing page 2 of 36 pages next » last page »

CAT QUESTIONS ARCHIVE


Search the question archives
Keyword
 

LOG IN TO ASK A NEW QUESTION

E-mail
Password
 

Not a user yet? Sign up with Catpert